Homogamy is the tendency for dates, mates, and spouses to pair off with someone of similar attraction, background, interests, and needs. They find and pair off with persons of similarity more than difference. Heterogamy is the dating or pairing of individuals with differences in traits.Have you ever heard the colloquial phrase, "opposites attract? He likes water skiing and I like camping and hiking…" I interrupted her and said, "So you both like ethnic food, music, and outdoors. All of us pair off with heterogamous and homogamous individuals with emphasis more on the latter than the former.The average woman is about 5 foot 4 inches tall and weighs about 144 pounds. Most of us tend to compare ourselves to averages or to others we know.
One of my students challenged this notion in the case of her own relationship. Some develop similar mannerisms; finish each other’s sentences; dress alike; develop mutually common hobbies and interests; and parent together. In other words, how many single females or males are there in the same classroom?In the United States there are millions of people between the ages of 18-24 (18-24 is considered prime dating and mate selection ages).That couple in the bottom right-hand corner is my wife and I on a field trip to the Association for Applied and Clinical Sociology in Ypsilanti, Michigan.She and I travel without our children at least twice per year and we have been attending professional conferences together for more than a decade. I was the maintenance man for all of the Women’s dorms and she lived in the dorms (I met many female friends through my work).